Love C. Dialogos, LMFT | Love Psychotherapy | Madison, WI

Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT (they/them) Clinical Psychotherapist and owner of Love Psychotherapy, LLC Love C. Dialogos is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Madison, Wisconsin. Love sees clients in person by appointment only at 811 E Washington Ave, Madison, WI 53703, and by telehealth across the 13 states where Love is licensed. Most of Love's work is with adults who were misdiagnosed for years and are identifying as autistic or ADHD later in life. Love also works with couples and with survivors of narcissistic and antagonistic abuse. Credentials: AAMFT Approved Supervisor and Clinical Fellow. Texas Board-Approved Supervisor. Certified Autism Spectrum Disorder Specialist (ASDCS). ADHD-CCSP. Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC). Practice website: lovepsychotherapy.com Clinical supervision: queermftsupervision.com LinkedIn: Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT Wikidata: L. C. Dialogos Phone: 773.219.0628 Email: love@lovepsychotherapy.com Also find Love in Madis...

The Beauty of Missing a Filter in Therapeutic Work Originally published in Psychotherapy Networker , September/October 2026. A couple is seated across from me, and they’ve been having the same argument for years. It’s worn a groove so deep that neither of them has to steer anymore—the car travels on its own. Whether they’re talking about the dishwasher, money, who reaches for whom at night and who pretends to be asleep—it’s never about those things. There’s a thing in the middle of the room, and they can both see it, and neither of them will touch it, because touching it costs something right now and leaving it only costs everything later. So they reach for the dishwasher again. The dishwasher is safe. The dishwasher has never once, in the history of dishwashers, been the problem. I watch them not say it, and I have an unfair advantage in the watching: I’m constitutionally bad at the thing they are so good at. I’m autistic and ADHD. I found this out almost by accident. A mentor of ...

The CAT-Q measures how much you camouflage; it does not determine whether you are autistic. What the three subscales assess, why the widely quoted cutoff is not in the original paper, and what to do with your score. A woman in her late thirties brings me a printout. She has taken an online camouflaging questionnaire, scored 138, and read on a forum that anything over 100 means autistic. She has spent three weeks reorganizing her understanding of her entire life around that number, and she wants to know what I think. What I think is that the number is real and the reading of it is not, and that the conversation we are about to have will be more useful than either of those. Read the full article at Love Psychotherapy Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT | Love Psychotherapy | Madison, WI

The missing stair describes a person a community quietly works around rather than addresses. What the pattern does to the people it harms, and why the workaround feels like care. Someone new to a community gets pulled aside at their third event. The warning is friendly and a little conspiratorial. Watch out for that guy. Don't let him corner you. Don't go into the back room with him. If he offers you a ride, say you already have one. It is delivered as a kindness and it is meant as one, and the person delivering it would be upset if anything happened. That gap, between the effort a community will spend warning people about someone and the effort it will spend removing him, is what this piece is about. Read the full article at Love Psychotherapy Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT | Love Psychotherapy | Madison, WI

A parent with ADHD and an AuDHD adult child keep misreading each other. How the double empathy problem and a parent's origin story shape family repair. A parent with ADHD and an adult AuDHD child come to family therapy after years of strain. The child hears the parent's advice as control. The parent reads the child's pauses as coldness, and after enough years of it, as rejection. Both of them are sure they already know what the other person means. In neurodivergent family therapy this is a common starting point. Both readings usually turn out to be misreadings, and a misreading can be corrected. Read the full article at Love Psychotherapy Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT | Love Psychotherapy | Madison, WI

An unmasked autistic person often expects ADHD friends to understand. ADHD social processing sits closer to neurotypical, and the demand for feminine-coded social performance comes with it. An autistic woman stops masking in her late thirties. She tells the people around her what that will look like, and then she notices something she did not expect. Her neurotypical coworkers adjust with less friction than her closest friend, who has ADHD and has always described the two of them as wired the same way. The friend begins to bristle when the affirming noises stop, when answers come back plain and complete with nothing added to cushion them, when a silence is left to sit. The friend experiences the change as a withdrawal of affection. The autistic woman experiences the friend's irritation as a demand for a performance she already explained she would no longer give. Read the full article at Love Psychotherapy Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT | Love Psychotherapy | Madison, WI